F*CK New Year’s Resolutions - It's time for a REVOLUTION!!!
Enough already…
New you, new beginnings, resolutions, countless goals, huge expectations, hopes, dreams, aspirations, endings and beginnings! Do you feel overwhelmed just reading this?!
New Year has massive hype and expectations attached…Sometimes too many that are impossible to reach.For for those of us who celebrate Christmas & New Year it can all get a bit much, IF we allow ourselves to get drawn in.
Over-indulgence, busyness, commercialism at this time of year can feel so fake and unnecessary. I’ve certainly been more conscious of this in recent years and keep it to a minimum. Of course it’s all a choice.
No doubt it can be a fun and enjoyable time of year – Yet, the flip side can be intense.
As we wave goodbye to 2022 The buildup and anticipation for the future of the new year can feel overpowering, like the impact of an unpleasant fragrance in a confined space.
January – Janus
The ancients named the first month of the Gregorian calendar after the Roman god - Janus. The image, see below, illustrates perfectly in my mind, the energy of a new year.
I love this imagery, it speaks perfectly to the energy of January. The cycle of endings, transitions, doors and beginnings!
One face looking back, reviewing, reflecting upon and evaluating the year past. Whilst the other face is looking to the future. I totally see it as a great time to reflect upon lessons learned, fun experiences, what we want to carry forward and that which we desire to say adios to!
In light of this JANUARY ANTICIPATION… I must confess to the odd waking moment of overwhelm and anticipation for 2023, during the remaining days of the year. Especially, as much of 2022 didn’t go exactly to plan, although a lot else did and it all worked out ;)
As we look forward to a new year full of hopes, planned adventure, a clean slate for us to realize our dreams, it often feels like a lot of pressure.
It’s time to name it, own it and transform this annual destructive pattern, IF this time of year ties you up in knots… anxiety and even depression. It’s time to acknowledge and remind ourselves that we can start a new at any given moment, any day or month of the year. YET, it’s worth recognizing that there is a collective symbolism and powerful energy in a NEW YEAR. Do you agree?
F*cK resolutions - time for REVOLUTIONS!
YES!, f*ck the passive, invasive toxicity and self-flagellation that often accompanies the subtle punitive nature of New Year’s Resolutions and goals. S T O P T H I S NOW!
Surprised to hear this from a Life Purpose Coach? Let me explain…
Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE goals, we often need them so that we can face our true north. Powerful, well thought through, realistic, inspirational goals that motivate us to action - towards what we truly desire.
Goals that are birthed with ‘the why beneath our why’ in mind, hold magic fairy dust. Seriously, get super clear on WHY we want what we want, there is a deeper meaning and significance to our goals.
Otherwise they’re not worth the paper they are written on. FACT. You will lose interest in guilt infused goals – trust me.
You know the goals we’ve all set at some stage in our lives – “ lose 14lb by March”, “give up chocolate”, “join the gym” (even if you loath it!). These guilt ridden, uninspiring and toxic goals – often too many at the start of the New Year ha ha!
Time to REVOLT!
What will be your personal revolution in 2023?
Revolution meaning a paradigm shift, a fundamental change, turning a held belief ON ITS HEAD!
How might you fundamentally change the way you look at or consider something this year? Perhaps you struggle with boundaries, where you allow yourself to be taken advantage of, say yes when it’s a hard NO. And you are left feeling resentful and eat, drink or shop those feelings down… not fun.
I’m talking about getting to the root or heart of it. Owning your POWER, being open to changing something important in a fundamental way.
My lived experience has taught me that some of our biggest challenges and difficulties, which we often have as ongoing goals, take an extended effort over time to truly reach.
I think this is more than ok, as these are often our achilles heels, as they can be the areas that are deeply entrenched. A deepening or learning, overcoming, awareness, releasing is sometimes needed.
This year I’m aiming to work more deeply on “caring less what others think”. I’ve been working with this for some time and made significant headway, this continues to be a long haul one for me!
My experience and training has also taught me that often we need, or at least benefit from support when we are working on these more stubborn areas AND when we know that we want to make changes, YET are not crystal clear on exactly what OR how to go about it.
Wishing much joy, happiness and adventure for 2023.
Lots of love, Liz x
p.s. I’d love to hear what personal revolution you are planning for 2023. And if you need help with it, drop me a line, as I have a couple of ways you can work with me and I’d LOVE to help out xx